Hi everyone,
I'm finally on! Just finish reading Leda and Rachel's posts and found them to be very moving. I just flashed on the irony of talking about the body in the classroom in this unembodied way. But I must admit it's where I'm most comfortable talking about this subject.
Oh yes, lots of hang-ups about body and emotion and grief. For my family grief is a very private thing. Not to be displayed in public. When my father died my mother asked that friends (we had no nearby family) not visit. It was awkward having folks show up with food (the custom where we lived for those very social wakes) and then hastily leave to respect my mother's wishes. We had tons of food and no one to feed (-: All this has little to do with the classroom except it's what comes up for me when I think about the place of grief in the classroom (I realize I'm being very literal with the term). And my family history/culture influences the things I'm willing/able to tolerate in the classroom.
I've also been present (as student and teacher) when strong emotion was expressed in the classroom. Nope, didn't handle it well. Tears are less threatening than anger (I always have tissues handy). Once a student of color stormed out of the room in response to another student's comments. How do we go on from there? How do we talk about the conflict in the absence of the aggrieved student?
Wish I could write more about this, but I urgently need to get back to reading, reading, reading. But I did want to at least sign on. I look forward to continuing the discussion.
Ellen